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When there is any change in a family such as separation or divorce, it affects all the members including the children. Including you! So don't keep your feelings to yourself. You are not alone. There are many children out there going through a similar thing.
You may have heard your parents talk about seeing their Solicitor or going to Court. This might be necessary if they cant agree on matters such as what should happen about the finances or working out living arrangements for the children.
Are you worried about changes or new plans being made. You can make sure that your voice is heard. Your Voice can be heard in the Mediation process.
If your parents want to agree matters without going to court then Mediation might be a good option for them. They can have discussions with someone present which can make it easier for them to talk about things and make decisions. Their Solicitor might even suggest that they try this.
Depending on your age, you might also be able to take part in mediation. This is called Child Inclusive Mediation. You don't have to but if you are over 9 then you may be able to talk to someone who is trained to talk to children in these kind of situations. You don't have to. It is your choice. Some children want their voice to be heard. There may be something importnant that you need your parents to know but don't feel comfortable talking to them directly.
If you want to be involved, then you can talk to your parents and ask them to consider mediation. If you are more comfortable talking to another adult such as a teacher or a member of your family then just tell them about Mediation.
You need to tell a grown up. If it is too hard to tell your parents then talk to a grandparent or a teacher. Don't keep your feelings bottled up.
It is definitely not your fault.
It can all be so confusing. Speak to someone who can help to simplify things for you. Don't keep your feelings bottled up. Do you have a teacher you can speak to? or grandmother/grandfather or relative ? speak to them.